By Carly Sackellares, MSW
I recently came across this amusing NYTimes Modern Love article about a woman’s unfortunate talent for “man flipping” and her gradual and unexpected realization of love for a man who she feels no inclination to flip.
Flash Point (taken from Chapter 5 of Naked Online: A DoZen Ways to Grow from Internet Dating ): “Growth is in finding the balance between self-care and space for another’s imperfections.”
Online dating is an exciting opportunity to meet lots of people we usually wouldn’t connect with by chance. And, as we know, having the endurance to stay in the game increases our likelihood of finding a potential match. Through the process, it is important to recognize your balance of giving space and taking space. Often, our tendencies towards one end of the continuum or the other stem from old patterns learned from our very first relationship - between our infant selves and our primary caregiver. Finding your unique balance allows you to stay present, Zen, and playfully engaged in romantic dances with potential partners.
The guidebook, Naked Online, provides space to reflect upon your balance of give and take. I invite you to use the open pages to write and draw about your experiences.